Wednesday, April 20, 2011

The Doctor on: Telephone Therapy?

Everyone has played the Telephone game-  A person starts out with a phrase. They whisper that phrase into someone's ear, who whispers it to the next person. Eventually, the original phrase gets altered and the final phrase sounds nothing like the original.  This happens in life all the time- advice is given, advice is processed, advice is translated, and it is passed on in a different form. The result is passed back to the original person.

I'm kinda getting to see something of this.Someone I know is having troubles- Dean, my friend Belle's (now)ex.. The problem is that it is none of my business- Dean not only doesn't know me well, but also dislikes me. Why? He has his reasons. Not important.  Anyway, he isn't really a friend- just a friend of a friend. So why do I care? Belle does. It is basically all she thinks about these days- we haven't had a conversation in weeks that hasn't mentioned Dean at least once. She is seriously worried about this guy. that means the worry passes to me.

So how do I help? That's a good question. I would love to be able to answer it. I am the kind of person that hates watching people I like have troubles, so I try my best to fix them. But in this case, there is absolutely nothing I can do. And things have progressed to the point where she can't do anything either- not that that has stopped her from trying. I'm sure that she sometimes thinks that I don't care, or that she is the only one who is worried about the poor guy, but that isn't true. I am suffering over this almost as much as she is- but I am even more helpless. So for once the doctor is asking for advice- if you can think of a way I can help, a way to fix things, let me know. My receptionist will give you your Nobel Peace Prize and send you on your way.

1 comment:

  1. I think this is one of my favorite posts that you've written. It's thoughtful, and well-worded. Hang in there. If there truly is nothing you can do for Dean, and you're doing all you can for Belle (knowing you, I'm sure you are), there's really nothing left to do but find distraction and learn to live with the worry about Dean. :P

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